Many women wonder what is happening to their man, why he began to want to communicate less, lost interest in the family, in intimate life, and generally began to procrastinate ~ London
Usually, women begin to blame only men for this situation, saying: “He has become completely insolent, does not want to earn even more, he loves me less, probably at work he has a mistress, we have no sex at all, he does not like me, with him something is wrong”. But few women think about the fact that it is precisely their daily behavior that leads men to the so-called psychological castration.
It is important for both man and woman to be respected, but it is in men that this need is especially strongly developed.
For a man, respect is the recognition of his value and masculinity, his independence and strength to solve current problems in family and life. But if a woman herself wants to stand “at the helm” of the ship, then she should not be surprised that she will remain the captain either until the end of her life, or will sail alone. Because her man will either surrender and give her completely the reins of power, or go to a woman with whom he will close his need for respect.
Some types of women mercilessly “castrate” men. Psychoanalysts call this “woman’s castrating behavior.”
“Castrating behavior” of a woman deprives a man of his strength, and he becomes a weak-willed weakling, who is popularly called henpecked. Such men are very passive, their eyes are constantly sad and when someone mentions the name of his wife, his mood changes and his posture weakens. The gait changes to shuffling steps, his whole appearance suggests that he is tired. Tired of being afraid that he has done or will do something wrong, that he will not guess what his wife wants, that he will have to make excuses again for something. To be afraid that because of the dissatisfaction of his wife and his lack of self-confidence, she will find herself another man and this will be another blow below the belt for him … But once this relationship was completely different.
So, read carefully about the types of women that contribute to the psychological castration of men and, if you find yourself in them, make a decision to change something.
A woman of this type sets the goal of her life to change her husband. She does not want to notice the mistakes behind herself so much, because she is afraid to realize her imperfection, that to teach, instruct, control her man becomes her favorite thing – “I am perfect, so he should be like that.” Usually such a woman refuses to hear her man, she only persistently teaches and says what can and cannot be done. The man next to her constantly feels like in prison next to the warden. He has to endure her and agree with her, since she does not give him a chance to conduct a dialogue. A woman – a controller, in comparison with a Woman – a mother, is distinguished by her directivity and a tough assessment of a man’s personality. She lives from the position that he should understand, accept and listen to me. She is scarce in positive emotions and words of support. In such women, men often begin to abuse alcohol, their intimate life is reduced to zero. The danger lies in the fact that such a man, at the time of alcoholic intoxication, becomes very aggressive, both in life and during sex.
Advice to a man.
If your spouse has started a long monologue with teachings, try to turn the conversation into a constructive dialogue at the very beginning of her tirade. Change the usual script for your conversations. Deep down, this type of woman will be rebuffed. Because most often such women were traumatized in childhood by parents who were oppressive towards her, and she unconsciously “plays out” this scenario on you.
Advice to a woman.
Try to understand that your man is an adult with his own life experience. Write on a piece of paper the areas that you don’t trust your man and try to talk it frankly with him. Perhaps, having heard his point of view, you will understand that he has everything under control and does not need additional control.
The woman is the mother.
A common type of woman in our modern times. Psychologically, she castrates her man in the same ways as the Controller Woman, only, in addition to advice and admonitions, she also tries to do something for the man. Her obsessive care, turning into annoying control, makes a child out of a man. A child unable to solve problems on his own. For example, when the kettle breaks down, the wife says: “Dear, the kettle is broken, we need to make it,” and at the same time she opens the u-tube and watches videos of how the repair is going on, and then: “Dear, I saw how to do it, I sent you the link do as it is shown there, otherwise you will make more wisdom, ”and so on. These women will always feel good if they are aware of everything that happens in their husband’s life. Of course, the relationship of such couples is bad, the husband often deceives, does not say …